Shine Like Stars

Shine like stars in the universe as we hold out the Word of life (Phil. 2:15)
We're not trying to be rock stars but just shed some light on a sad and lonely world. Stay tuned for how God works through weak and tired, sometimes really cranky vessels.

Showing posts with label Red Letters Campaign - Adoption Journal. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Red Letters Campaign - Adoption Journal. Show all posts

Friday, September 25, 2009

Let's talk about adoption

I've been so caught up in my own anxious excitement about 'the call' that I haven't paid close attention to how my kiddos have been thinking and feeling about it. They've been really sweet and have talked about her at random times.

Nathan goes to a co-op preschool, on Wednesday I was working in the classroom and every time a new kid would come into the quiet room to play he would tell them that he is going to have new baby and that he loves her:)

Last night, my nephew Seth was over and the boys were playing in their bedroom then I hear Caleb say "Seth, let's go sit on the couch and talk about adoption." Seth obliges him and they come into the living room. Caleb proceeds to ask him questions about what Seth thinks we should name our new baby and such. It was very cute.

Tonight, when it was time for bed Caleb said 'I'm going to go brush my teeth and then we can talk about adoption then it's time to hit the sack.' I was laying down with Nathan, who had also just asked me if his new baby would be the same color as Micah but a different baby, when Caleb climbed into his bed:
"Dad let's talk about adoption...what do you think our baby will be like? Is she going to be beautiful? Is she going to have a heart that loves God? What should we name her?"

Amazingly, that was the first time I cried today! My boys are so sweet and are also so ready for this baby to come home. At the very least, to know who she is and know what she looks like. Come on Christy call already!!

I think Addie's ready too. She's been talking about her baby sista lately and she's always loved carrying her babies around. Most importantly, she's no longer being a brute to baby Micah and just loves to kiss him and hold him.

By the way, we have a hard time talking about baby names when Nathan is in the room because he wants to name her "Everything" and his voice is the loudest in the house and he's the most passionate so, it's difficult to throw other ideas out there when he's around!

Being #1 is great but I've been struggling with disappoint on a daily basis when we don't get the call. My sister, Jennifer, emailed me a verse that I've been clinging to. She was encouraged by it when she was overdue with her lovely daughter, Alex.

Isaiah 30:18
Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you;
He rises to show you compassion.
For the Lord is a God of justice.
Blessed are all who wait on Him.

I've too been so encouraged by this verse. The Lord is completely in charge and He's an amazing God who loves me and has compassion on me so......I can wait patiently and know that it's all good!!!

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Urgent Advocacy Needed On Proposed New Haitian Adoption Law ~ July, 2009

I received this email today from an AGCI family. They have been waiting for their daughter to come home from Haiti for 2 years. I cannot imagine how hard that would be. You can help by using the following link to contact your senator.



SUMMARY:
Haiti is currently operating under an adoption law that was decreed in 1974 by Jean Claude Duvalier. The 1974 adoption law is outdated, has serious limitations that are not in the best interest of children and causes confusion in its application resulting in significant delays in legal processing of adoption cases.

Children in Haiti matched with adoptive families are waiting as long as 4 years to complete their adoption. Other children awaiting adoption will endure this same wait unless a law is passed now.

With the help of UNICEF and others, a new adoption law has been developed for both domestic and intercountry adoption in Haiti. The law clarifies adoption processing protocols and mandates clear government oversight responsibilities which will correct many of the problems with the present adoption system.

Many Haitian children are in desperate need of adoptive families and will benefit from this new law. This includes children who have been waiting in the adoption system (many up to three years) due to confusion and difficulties surrounding the outdated law.

URGENT ACTION NEEDED:
The Haitian Legislature will convene soon. It is URGENT that the new Haitian Adoption Law be included for approval in the agenda for the upcoming session.

Contact your Congressional Representatives [click here for direct link and letter to your Representative] and urge their strong support of the new proposed adoption law in Haiti. Please ask them to contact the Haitian authorities.Please share this Call To Action with friends and family to join this effort:

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Dossier Sent


We did it! We sent out our dossier today. I'm a little nervious about it getting there just because I put so much work into all that paperwork:) I'm sure it'll get there though. So, once it's reviewed and approved we will officially be on the waiting list for our little babe! Yeah, it seems like it's taken forever to get here but I think the timing is going to work out well.

We are excited too because we had the money we needed to send with our dossier. A couple weeks ago we were wondering if we'd have enough and thanks to so many people who have bought shirts we do:) Just another cool way the Lord's provided for our adoption. Only $10,000 more to go!


Friday, February 20, 2009

T-Shirts

Our shirts are in! My brother in law, Dan, did an awesome job designing these shirts for us (he and my sister are travelling right now to get my nephew in Ethiopia). As you can see, the shirt has Africa is filled in with all sorts of words relating to our adoption. Love, family, adoption, patience, hope, 7,346 (miles from Dearborn to Ethiopia), AGCI (our agency), Hannah's Hope (our agency's orphanage), a couple key Bible verses for us, Home (the e in home is pink and is where Ethiopia is in Africa), fir-kir (means love in Amheric).......

Also, we have 50 Jerry Schroeder (another artsy b-i-l) cd's to give away. He's giving the proceeds to Father's House International in Ghana. So we'd like to pass a cd on to you with your shirt:)

We are doing this because it's super expensive to adopt, yet we totally feel called to do it. The Lord has showed us how close adoption is to His heart, we have all been adopted into His family. We feel blessed to have our faith stretched in this process. Last year when we started, we had a little bit of money saved up for it, but as the process continued we were surprised at how quickly we needed to come up with lots of money. I was super stressed about it for a couple weeks, but as the months went on we were amazed at the Lord's provision. He provided extra jobs for both Michael and I. Seriously, it's amazing, we've already paid $11,000. We usually, like most people, have just enough money to pay our bills so this is really incredible for us. He has used this process to build our faith.

Generally, I hate having fundraisers, I hate asking people for money and I feel ackward receiving money from people, so this is a real stretch for me. I'm amazed at people's generosity though and I hate to have my pride stiffle that. So I'm swallowing it here and letting you know that if you'd like to contribute you can by buying a shirt. But if you can't or don't, we still love you and we'd love your prayers more than your moolah:) I've also added a donate button on the sidebar because some super generous peeps asked me to--thanks guys!
If you're interested in buying one you can buy through paypal or if you live close, let us know and we'll deliver:)




Thursday, January 22, 2009

Homestudy Update




So I just finished reviewing our homestudy. It's almost all ready to be sent in. Our children's medical forms need to be filled out again. Gina was mailing them to us to have a date included next to the signature and they were lost in the mail. So I need to go to the dr's and have them fill the form out again. It should be too hard.


My issue now is that the wait time for referral is about 5-6 months. I'm worried that we'll get our referral right before the courts close in Ethiopia and have to twice as long to travel. I know that one way or the other we'll be waiting but I'll be so emotionally unstable waiting months and months knowing who our babe is and not being able to go get her. More than my usual emotional unstableness:) Gina our homestudy social worker wrote that I'm stable and a good parent, so that makes me feel good. Anyway....Trying to figure out do we wait until March to send our dossier in or just send it when everything's ready. We'll probably end up just sending it. I just like to find things to stress about because I don't have enough going on here already.


But really the wait is hard once you have the referral. My sister, Aimee, is in the after referral wait stage and it's rough. Micah is so stinking cute and all of us just want to kiss his cute face....His momma especially, they've received his referral about 2 months ago. Hopefully they'll hear about travel info soon:) Look at those sweets lips....


Thursday, December 18, 2008

Baby Mama

No, I'm not talking about the Tina Fay movie, which I'm sure is hilarious, I haven't seen it yet.

Anyway, I was thinking last night when I should have been sleeping...Timing wise we'll probably have our Ethiopian addition by this time next year. That means that she's most likely in utero right now. Which means that there's a mother in Ethiopia that is going to have a horrible year. She's going to carry this child and birth her all the while loving her deeply. Then she's going to get sick, probably with some disease that is completely preventable, then she will pass away leaiving her precious baby.

I so often think of how excited I am that we're adding to our family and how wonderful it's going to be. But all day I've been thinking and praying for my baby's mama. That the Lord will be real to her as she deals with all the hardships that are coming. I can't imagine what it would be like, not being able to watch my children grow up, not even having the peace of mind knowing that my babies would be taken care of by my family, but giving my child to strangers, hoping for a better future for her. What a brave lady, my baby's mama is.

I'm also praying that this problem of people dying of curable diseases would decrease. It's just plain stupid that people around the world are dying when they don't have to. More on that tangent later. I'm reading Red Letters by Tom Davis for the second time it's got me thinking.....

Friday, October 10, 2008

We inked ourselves


We have to send our prints in to get state clearance for the adoption. Michael thought we could do them ourselves. Hopefully it will work. (Michael says I sound sassy when I say that, I don't think I mean to, but maybe I do, who knows.)

Last week we got our adoption planner and we are officially in the Ethiopia program. We had a conference call with Christy yesterday and talked about the the paperwork we need to do. She's super nice and I'm excited about working with her. I warned her that I'll probably become her stalker over the next year. She wasn't too scared of me so that's good:)

So here's how it'll go--we'll work on our dossier which will take 2-3 months. Then we'll official be put on "the list" 6-8 months later we'll get our baby!!!
For now, we have so much paperwork to do with finishing up our homestudy stuff and starting our dossier, my head's spinning a bit. :)

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Vote out Poverty

"Day after day they seek me out;
they seem eager to know My ways,
as if they were a nation that does what is right
and has not forsaken the commands of its God...
loose the chains of injustice, set the oppressed free,
share your food with the hungry, provide shelter for the poor,
clothe the naked."
Michael and I have been struck by how much the Lord calls us to social justice and caring for the poor. We have committed ourselves to reading Isaiah 58 daily for a month and praying the Lord will direct us in how exactly we can help. I was amazed by this chapter a few months ago as I was reading the book "Just Courage." Then, earlier this week when I came downstairs in the morning Michael had left his Bible open to that chapter and a message for me on the answering machine (since we generally wake up hours after he leaves) saying "we need to talk about this chapter." When he got home he said "What are we going to do about this?" It's so obvious that the Lord's heart is for his people to be serving the oppressed and the poor, yet our daily lives don't reflect that. Did you know that there is more human trafficing and slavery going on today around the world then when Wilber Force (Amazing Grace guy) fought to end the slave trade. What am I doing? How can I live out Isaiah 58?

Michael and I figured it was too big of a problem to solve in the ten minutes we have to talk a day (sad but pretty true, he gets home around 8:30 or 9:00 and I've usually put the kids to bed and have started working) and to read Isaiah 58 everyday for a month.

I love how the Lord brings things together, I just got home from listening to Jim Wallace from Sojourners talk to a large group of us at University of Detroit Mercy about our role as Christians to change the political environment in America. He encouraged us to "be the wind" of change. There are 30,000 people that die everyday of starvation, we need to stop this. We need to make noise about getting rid of poverty in our rich nation. He spoke about revivals and how a revival is only considered a revival when it changes something. Our churches need to come together and fight for poverty to end. The UN has Millennium Development Goals to end extreme poverty over the world, I had never heard about this until tonight. How crazy is that since it's been going on since 2000 and the goal is to elliminate extreme poverty by 2015. I guess I need more education. I also heard tonight that the United Kingdom came up with a plan to half poverty in 10 years and it's working. America needs real plans that are put in action and measurable to end poverty here. It's not so much about which candidate is perfect but about Christians coming together to "loosen the chains of injustice, to set the oppressed free...Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will quickly appear" again with Isaiah 58....

Sojourners may be a little liberal for some. I definitely don't agree with everything they say, but I think they are on the right track....encouraging Christians and churches to live how we are called to. Their goal is to Vote Out Poverty. Let's do it.

I for real need to go to bed. Addie's due to wake up in about a half an hour and do some crazy middle of the night, scratchy voice yelling and Nathan due to come and cuddle with me in about 2 hours. I'm real busy even in my sleep:)


“The church must be reminded that it is not the
master or the servant of the state, but rather the
conscience of the state. It must be the guide and
the critic of the state, and never its tool. If the
church does not recapture its prophetic zeal, it
will become an irrelevant social club without
moral or spiritual authority.”
—MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.
Strength to Love, 1963.

Friday, September 5, 2008

Wemonade for Afwica




All summer long Caleb has been wanting to have a lemonade stand and also asking me if he can give some of his toys to people that don't have any. So last Friday I decided it was time to follow through with his good ideas. We made a poster days earlier and while I was babysitting for my sweet nieces and nephew we had the lemonade stand.



They were all so sweet and a lot of people stopped and gave them $. Everytime a car would drive by Nathan would say "Wemonade for Afwica" with his raspy, little voice. He was so adorable. Our neighbors were so great too. We only had our little stand open for an hour and the kids made $35.00.
We used the money to buy mosquito nets from Sharing International . I got the idea from this great website: http://www.kidslake.org/. They feature monthly projects for kids to raise money for. The nets were the project for June but Caleb was set on getting those. He's had his run ins with bugs this summer and wants to help protect people in Liberia:)

Here's a blurb from KidsLake about this project:

In Liberia mosquitoes are EVERYWHERE! Here in America if we get bit by a mosquito it is not really a big deal. Sure, they itch but we do not fear for our lives! In Liberia most mosquitoes carry a deadly disease called malaria. Kids over in Liberia have to be protected not only during the day but also at night while they sleep! Their houses don't have good roofs and doors so mosquitoes can get in.Malaria kills 58 kids in Liberia a day! 58!How we can help:Earn,Save and Raise your money for mosquito nets.They are seven dollars for one mosquito net but they will cover four kids! The orphanage they will be going to sleeps two kids on each bunk. So seven dollars could help save four precious lives!


Thursday, August 28, 2008

Ethiopia on the brain




Caleb is such a thinker. He's been trying to wrap his brain around this adoption stuff. We checked out books from the library about Ethiopia and he's been reading them for weeks. The other day Michael was reading one of them and somehow a conversation ensued about how some Ethiopians live in Michigan....Fastforward to days later, Caleb says to me "Mommy, guess what? We don't have to wait to get our baby, because there are Ethiopia people in Michigan." The picture he drew above says "Ethiopia is ahead of Michigan." Translation of thought--we are close enough to go to Ethiopia now.


Another funny thing... Michael has a wad of cash from his soccer kids (they owed him $ for socks). Caleb saw him pull a $20 out of the envelop and said "Daddy, you can't use that we need it for our adoption." I hope we aren't turning him into a crazy person:)


I constantly watch the wheels turning as he wrestles with understanding this process, I'm not too far ahead of him in understanding all the adoption intricacies.


Wednesday, August 20, 2008

New friends at the Riverwalk

I wrote this post a while ago but I never finished it because I had more details to add, but my brain's fried and I still wanted to post it. I was reminded of this meeting tonight when I talked to my friend, Marie. She just finished all of her paperwork for a domestic adoption!! I'm so excited. I'm planning on hanging out with Marie and my new friend, Bev......



On Saturday we went to the Riverwalk, we met some new friends there who have adopted. I had a reallly good conversation with Beverly and Matt (they have the cutest little boy). They have a ton of wisdom about transracial adoption and they shared a little bit with me. They adopted domestically and have spoken on many adoption panels.


It was one of those cool God things that we met.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Homestudy Stuff

Just an update on the Ethiopian front....We're plugging away at our homestudy. I must say this binder is huge and a little overwhelming. Slowly but surely we're getting there. My goal is to have the bulk of it finished by the end of August before I lose my husband to soccer:)

Saturday, August 2, 2008

Homestudy Packet--Yippee


The box is all mangled because the boys and I were so excited about opening it. When Caleb saw the picture on the binder he said "Is that our new baby?"

Sunday, July 27, 2008

Water and Racial Slurs Flying at the Park
















The sprinkler park is pretty close to our church so we packed all our bathing suits this morning and headed there right after church. The boys had such a blast (even though Caleb got stung 2x by a wasp). I gave Addie her first whole chicky nugget and she was entertained for a long time.

While Michael was playing with the boys on the play structure and Addie and I were lounging, there was a group of people very close by and one woman was talking loudly, I unfortunately heard her conversation. She was talking all this smack about how there so many Indian people in the area and on and on with lots of other racial ignorances (I know I just made that phrase up but it seems right). It was one of those strange moments where I wanted to say something but a. she wasn't talking to me and b. her comments were ridiculous but subtle. I ended up walking away from the area because I couldn't handle it anymore. Later I was thinking about how most of the time when people make racial comments it's pretty subtle. I feel like I need to be prepared by having a good response. Like when crazy lady says: "There are just so many Indians around, the whole neighborhood has dark skin" or "They don't even speak English well" or "Canton's becoming like Dearborn." Now that those comments are written, I guess they really aren't subtle. Any ideas out there about how to respond to blatant or subtle racial comments?

Thursday, July 24, 2008

The Book Thief--Book Review

Since I can't remember anything anymore, I decided to start blogging about the books I've read. So many times I totally forget what a book was about. So here's my first review:

The Book Thief is totally different than any book I've read. It is a story about a young girl in Nazi Germany, told by Death. Yup, that's right, death is telling the story. Sounds eerie I know, but I really enjoyed it. Reading about Hitler's craziness through the eyes of a German citizen was interesting. Those poor people were punished if they supported Jews in anyway. There was an awful part in the book about "the parade of Jews." So ridiculous that stuff like this happened and is still happening in parts of the world. Check out what's going on in Darfur.

So pretty much, it was a good book and I'd recommend reading it. Good pick mom.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Here's Tom Davis' article again, it's really good:)

Why Christians S**k
Jesus might have harsh words for Christians today. Here's why...and what you can do about it.
By Tom Davis

Each Sunday, millions of Christians in America gather to worship the God who commands us to “love our neighbor as ourselves.” We belt out praises to the God who tells us that “pure and undefiled religion is caring for widows and orphans in their distress.” We kneel in pious prayer before the Almighty God of the universe who describes Himself as loving, gracious, merciful, and generous.

Then, we walk out the back door of the church, step into a world in need, and proceed to withhold the love, grace, and mercy that’s extended to us.

We might as well give God the middle finger. Outside of a tiny minority of Christians, we have become a self-centered group of priggish snobs.

In short, we s**k.

Before you pick up a rock and throw it at me, think about this: I could have used other words that aren’t as nice as “s**k.” Like “white-washed tombs,” “brood of vipers,” “fools,” or the ever ego-inflating, “Get behind me Satan!” Jesus used all of these choice phrases to describe religious leaders and some of his closest of followers.

But calling someone a white-washed tomb just doesn’t cut it anymore. "We s**k" is a much better choice for our cultural context. Poverty s**ks. Divorce s**ks. And, unfortunately, some Christians s**k, too.

Here are the facts:

Eighty-five percent of young people outside the church who have had connection to Christians believe present-day Christianity is hypocritical. Inside the church, forty-seven percent of young people believe the same thing.

And why wouldn't they? We’re pretty stingy with our money:

- 80 percent of the world’s evangelical wealth is in North America.
- Giving by churchgoers was higher during the Great Depression than it is today.
- Christians give an average of $13.31/week to their local church.
- Only 9 percent of “born-again” adults reported tithing in 2004.

And let's take a peek in on our neighbors:

- More than 1 billion people live in absolute poverty.
- 500 million people are at the edge of starvation.
- 200 million children are being exploited as laborers.
- Half of the human beings on the planet live on less than $2/day.
- 1.5 billion people do not have enough money to buy food.

This is information that anyone can collect from the Internet, just as I did. Any reasonable person could make this simple conclusion: Most American Christians do not care about what God says in the Bible.


Need some Biblical evidence? Check this out...
We pick out the scriptures we like, as if we were dining at a five-star buffet. We conveniently ignore the scriptures that talk about caring for the poor, giving away material possessions, and loving money. Scriptures like:


Anyone who sets himself up as "religious" by talking a good game is self-deceived. This kind of religion is hot air and only hot air. Real religion, the kind that passes muster before God the Father, is this: Reach out to the homeless and loveless in their plight, and guard against corruption from the godless world.” (James 1:26-27)
Dear friends, do you think you'll get anywhere in this if you learn all the right words but never do anything? Does merely talking about faith indicate that a person really has it? For instance, you come upon an old friend dressed in rags and half-starved and say, "Good morning, friend! Be clothed in Christ! Be filled with the Holy Spirit!" and walk off without providing so much as a coat or a cup of soup—where does that get you? Isn't it obvious that God-talk without God-acts is outrageous nonsense? (James 2:15-17)
"If you have two coats, give one away," [Jesus] said. "Do the same with your food." (Luke 3:11)

When Christians care about their political views, what sexual preference someone has, or their bank account more than they care about the millions of people who die in the world because they don’t have five dollars to buy the medicine that would cure them, something has gone drastically wrong.

These kinds of Christians s**k.

What can we do to stop s**king? I think the answer is relatively simple. It's found in the Bible: “Do not merely listen to the Word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says” (James 1:22).

Give away material possessions to those in need, love the unlovely, take care of the widow and orphan. This is not rocket science. It just takes a heart committed to doing the things God said to do.

Want ten simple steps? You got it.

Christians, listen up: People are tired of being criticized, judged, and listening to the lip service we are so great at giving. Instead, why don’t we commit to making the changes we can make?

Christianity needs a renewal of the principles that made it great. It needs to be more like Jesus—compassionate, self-sacrificial, unconditionally loving, and caring for those who are most in need.

That kind of lifestyle allowed twelve men to change the world. It will help you change yours, too.

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Rocking our money blues away


Aunt Amy and Uncle Zach came for a visit on Friday night. The boys absolutely love hanging out with them. They get all wild crazy and run around like lunatics! It's fun:)

We were feeling bummed on Friday about all the money we have to come up with. Amy and Zach provided a good diversion. We had borrowed Rock Band for the Wii earlier that night from my sister. After we put the kids to bed we "rocked" into the wee hours of the night (I don't know if you can tell in the picture, but Michael is wearing a tie on his head). On Saturday we stayed in our pjs and just hung out and "rocked" (I'm totally not musically inclined and I'm not at all good, but I like to pretend).

Amy and Zach also blessed us with a gift of money, which was so encouraging, especially timingwise...Lots of tears flowing...The Lord totally used them to give us a little faith boost!

Friday, July 18, 2008

Orientation Call--Completed, Financial Stress--Begins

We had our Orientation call today. It went well and we are so excited about starting the process.

I must say I'm overwhelmed with the financial aspect. When we started looking for agencies in March we really like AGCI. After researching it a bit we were pretty much sold on it. One of our only issues with it is that so much money is due at the beginning. Much time passed from the time we decided to go with AGCI and we sent our application in on June 25. During the call today we realized that we don't have all the money we need to fully start the process. In order to start our dossier we need to have a huge chunk mulah. We need this money within 3 months of our application so we don't have to pay another processing fee. So here's the time to exercise that faith that I was talking about...much easier said than done. We are hoping to be able to come up the money before the end of September. At this point my head is swimming with jumbled info that I'm sure will all be figured out.

So the plan is to get the homestudy done, then apply for grants and loans.
My goal mentally is to keep from stressing about being broke and how to come up with money and trust the Lord will complete what He has started in our hearts. That's a real challenge for me. I'm feeling a little stressed at this moment:(

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Blog Buzz Question

“How do I do this, moneywise? I want to adopt, but it seems so overwhelming. We don’t really have $20,000 in the bank, ya know!” Please blog about your experience, ideas, insight, fundraisers and other ideas that worked for you while raising your adoption money.

This is a great question and my answer is really simple---I have no idea! It's pretty scary when I stop and think about it. The tax credit is a bonus and we'll apply for some grants and low interests loans, like the Abba Fund, that are out there to make the adoption feasible for people like us.

I'm doing a Beth Moore study right called Believing God. I'm learning about how little I truly trust the Lord. Michael and I both felt as we started this adoption that the Lord was calling us to step out in faith and he would meet us. So here we are! We really feel like he is going to provide for all of our needs in this adoption. Not to say that I don't completely freak out at times when I think about the financial side of it. But as Beth Moore says, "I'm believing God!"

Rock on, Tom! You have to read this article...

Tom Davis is a great writer with a God given passion for the poor. I read this article today and was blown away by the truth in it. Jesus is calling me to be truly religious and take care of the widows and orphans in my daily life. How often I miss opportunities that are given to me and I don't make the effort to care for the needs of the poor. I could go on and on but what I'm pretty much saying is read it!

Tom's Blog is also a good read.